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Nicholas Barry's avatar

I just read your article on making connections. The last few days of my life have been the most emotionally draining of my 19 years of existing. I finally was able to be honest with my best friend. It was incredible scary, and I didn't want to risk losing our friendship, but at the same time, I didnt want our friendship to be anything but genuine, so I wrote her letter, and she responded really well to it. She told me I was her best friend too. We spent hours together today because she told me that she was so inspired by my honesty and openness to her that she was going to be honest with another friend, who is my friend as well. I helped her write down her feelings, and even though I have known her since August, and she has been my best friend since about September, I feel twice as close to her as I was before. I only read your article just now after all of this happened, and I thought it was an amazing coincidence, so I figured I would buy you a couple coffees and let you know that I really appreciate your writing, curiosuty, and intillectual honesty. I hope others appreciate your article as much as I do.

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Dimitry Doronkin's avatar

Very nice work, love it. Here are my two cents, the feedback, you may say, even sometimes you do not like them.

"We've got hundreds, and in some cases thousands, of acquaintances, but few real relationships." - this is absolutely normal, nothing to do with the digital world. It has always been that way and always will be. Each of us is so unique that it is remarkably hard to find a close match. Those are a few, and they are precious.

"... as result, they never get to know us. And we never get to know them." - and that is ok too. They are (and you) just not ready. We can not ask from someone more than he or she can give us.

"That's how you get closer. You create a space for each other to be your true selves." - yes, always.

"It is part of the human experience to seek to understand each other and ourselves, and perhaps ourselves through each other." - yes, everything and everyone that surround us is just a reflection of us. One way to " know" ourselves is through the eyes of others.

"But those connections require us to be awake." - yes, but to be awake, or at least to start walking toward awakening, we need to connect to our spiritual part, to the Divine "I AM." Maybe someday you will write about it too, will be curious to read.

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