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Stephen Klimczuk-Massion's avatar

Reminds me of a good line from the 2021 film The Worst Person in the World: "I wasted so much time worrying about what could go wrong. But what did go wrong, was never the things I worried about."

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Cool Librarian's avatar

I think a good mantra to repeat whenever i am stuck in the despair of uncertainty is to make your own certainties! What I mean is that when life feels out of control, we can think about what in our lives is by our definition, eternal.

Here are some of my examples:

-My family will always love and support me. Nobody will purposely abandon me (because I deserve to be loved and cherished)

-I will never give up (because people need me to be their champion and I need them)

-If I practice self-care, I will live healthfully for a long time (because science has found there is a strong correlation between self-care and a long life)

An annoyingly practical person might say this is yet another attempt to reassure myself, but I disagree. Maybe someone struggling with feeling out of control should remove the concept of control altogether. Sometimes thinking about what you can or cannot control causes you more anxiety since that way of thinking derives from the assumption that you will have to solve your problems completely alone, because control supposedly comes from inside you and you alone. But isn't that why you seek solace from people who love you, because they help you lift your burdens? What if instead of leaning heavily into the idea of nothing making sense since the world is so uncertain, we leaned into the idea of embracing the proof of how our lives do make sense? After all, we can’t wallow in uncertainty forever.

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